Strangers & Friends

Maybe I have been a little harsh and judgmental of my community. In truth my perception comes from my own experiences of people who live up to their stereotypes. But though judging people to the community they are attached are inevitable, a touch of kindness are usually around the corner. So sometimes, I hate a little less and I love a little more. I would highlight 10 simple act of kindness that I experienced myself.

1. I ALWAYS find myself with empty battery. At the worst possible times too so I would leave people wondering my fate or whether I am hurt somewhere that I am unable to be reached. This perceived paranoia is really because I myself am one. So you KNOW something is wrong (or stupid) that is causing me to be incommunicado. (I HAVE A FUNNY STORY FOR THIS. TO BE CONTINUED IN THE NEXT POST)

Sometimes when you're expected somewhere but you're running late but your phone died on you. What could you do. Sometimes I realized the battery is low so I would inform people that the phone will probably die soon. But if it suddenly died on me! The horror

HAHAHA. Then I get up the courage to ask random kindly looking people for their phone enabling me to get in touch with me loved ones. And tell them basically. "I'm not dead." And people are so accommodating. Like here's my phone trusted stranger?

2. This is short but oh so important. You know in LRT and buses? In those uni days when oil price is none of my concern and bus fares are CHEAP. Like people just give up their seats naturally. And sometimes man just give seats to me for being a woman. Like chivalry is not dead ladies. I get it. It's common sense. The pregnant woman and old people needs more rest than you selfish bastards. But that's my point. Selfish bastards are just in abundance. But then not everyone are selfish bastards.. And i live for this moment when humanity is just natural...

3. When I was 15. I came to school in the morning feeling horrible. I'm certain now that it must have been just a simple teenage drama not even worth a memory 10 years later. But I go to school fairly early. I will be the fifth person in (not even kidding). And always I would sit with this girl waiting for our mutual friends to come. She was sort of a friend. We hang with the same friends but never really clicked. We were friendly strangers.

But on this particular morning. I came in hiding my sadness as best as I could (truth: i really didn't put much effort. I wear my heart on my sleeve). And this friendly stranger saw and asked this simple question. "Hey are you ok?". And the waterworks came out. She sat there just waited until I finished. And i said yes. And that was enough. I felt better just like that. I wished i could say we became super friends after this. I mean we had a MOMENT. But it didn't happen. I haven't spoken to her of anything significance beside pleasantries since. But that moment of kindness. That split second. I was forever grateful she was there.

4. 3 people stopped their car to jumpstart my dead car in the middle of morning rush hour traffic at 3 different times. Enough said. God i wished i remembered their faces and names... It also worth noting that 7 ppl i successfully flagged refused to help (why did you stop in the first place? did you think i was offering free cable waving them like that?)

5.  The people who chased my car and honk like crazy just to tell my stupid ass that my car lights are not turned on at 11pm.

6. A woman automatically walked beside me in the rain because i didn't have an umbrella (LIKE WHO DOES THIS?)

7. That guy who helped push my trolley of boxes in court when I struggled balancing handful of documents while pushing the load.

8. A woman in Court tending to the bar council room allowed me credit for internet and printing because my purse was empty and i couldn't draw money at that time. Choosing instead to hold on to my promise that i'll come back later to pay her. When I asked if i could pay her later, I honestly thought she would politely say no. If I was in her shoes I would say no. The bill was not mere change. It was RM25 if i remembered correctly. She didn't even ask my name! Now some may say that it was in Court, I was obviously a lawyer and she probably remembered me in Court. Even considering all this, I was grateful. More so when you consider this is the place where cynicism is not only practiced but a way of life. (some lawyers would disagree. But really? You think not??)

9. In my university days, a random student came up to ask if I needed company back to my college room.  I was alone coming out of the library at night on a semester break. Her concern was actually sound. I could see that her friends were not keen because our colleges were a distance from each other but she ignored them anyway.

(Ultimately my destination was not back to the dorm so I declined her offer. The friendly girl and her unfriendly minions left. On a further note, i do get very suspicious of people. So even if I had wanted to go back to the room, taking safety precautions i don't think I would have joined them. But I believed she was sincere so it counts as an act of kindness)

10. A cabbie refused fare when he took me back home in the pouring rain when I was 13.

And there's many more. That friendly smile that passed between strangers. The hello as you shared a table in a packed restaurant. The greetings of strangers just passing you through life. Life is minutely difficult. We face different crisis personally and professionally. So I am grateful for that little light in between this fast paced race where people are just kind to each other for no reason whatsoever.

Empty cans make the most noise.

Today, out of GREAT disappointment I’m finally posting this.

The youngsters actively participate in demonstrations is something very common now. They seem to be very vocal with regards to things that to THEIR mind are in need of change. Fair enough. After all we live in a democracy society and it is ‘supposed’ to be a human right thing that the humans will have the freedom of speech.

But just a subtle reminder. PLEASE USE YOUR BRAIN BEFORE YOU DECIDE TO VOICE OUT your opinion or say something. I’m sure we’ve heard that “Empty cans make the most noise” isn’t it. 

Besides all the demonstrations, people commenting here and there be it about political issues, human rights… everyone seems to have their own opinion on things and trying to be very ‘academic’. Previously only scholars will make a remark on something and that will only be done after doing all the necessary research but that is not the case now. Everybody appears to be a scholar somehow regardless whether you even complete your degree or not.

A near example happened this afternoon. A MALE student full with ‘charisma’ and ‘man-ness’ bravely raised his hand and said: “may I give suggestions with regards to this matter?”. WOW! It’s very brave of him to do that. But FIRST, is it PROPER for him to do that??

I’m so sorry, you may call me “narrow-minded” or “conservative”, I don’t mind. In fact that is what I am. I believed that parents and teachers deserve all the respect in the world. If you have any opinion or suggestion, I think it is proper for you to see them personally rather than voicing or shouting it out for the whole class to hear.

The reason is simple. What if the opinion or whatever you said could some way or another hurt or embarrassed your teacher? Is it OK for that to happen then? Personally, I do not see anything wrong with whatever she said. the remarks she made on her disappointment of things, she deserved to say that and what she said is not in any way prejudice or biased. It is based on her experience and sad to say, I admit the things she said is true.

The problem with the students now to be specific is that they do not use their brains. They have the knowledge in hand, but they are somehow too dependent and restricted on the resources that they have and they do not at all can think professionally. Of course they are experts on how to DRESS UP to class, how to act in front of their partners, how to simply voice out anything that comes to mind without even thinking, but when it comes to being professional and try to imagine yourself in a situation, they FAILED!

It is always someone else’s fault but never theirs. It is also the government, the teachers, the parents that are wronged but never them. How can you criticized others when YOU, yourself cannot accept criticisms? Each one of us has our own war. Please be nice and considerate towards others so that others can and hopefully will do the same towards you. And because of your ‘brave-ness’ other people that doesn’t share the same opinion as you will now have to suffer for your stupidity. Thank you.

KECEWA adalah perasaan aku sekarang. Aku dikhianat.

Aku bukan pro-gov. In the sense that parti aku adalah PAS. Aku sokong ideologi PAS. Tapi.. Ni adalah kerajaan. Aku bukan pro-gov. Aku pro-Malaysia. So.. In realiti aku menyokong BN sebagai peneraju kerajaan Malaysia. So there is trust. Aku trust dia (secara paksa atau rela) to do what is best for Malaysia.

OF COURSE aku sedar ada pengundi hantu. OF COURSE aku dah baca from blogs yang tunjuk bukti that dalam system SPR ade 2 org with the same IC. So aku tau pengkhianatan tu.

So bile aku nampak gambar ni kat facebook. Aku tak terkejut. Malah aku rasa itu mungkin satu taktik pembangkang untuk dapat lagi pengundi. BTW.. pic kecik even originally and quite unclear. So look at the pic urself here. But to those yang tak click the link, the pic shows a print screen of a result of search untuk pengundi using the IC number. So apparently the same IC number is registered for two different voters.

What I usually do in this situation is mempercayai yang really MEMANG ADE PENGUNDI HANTU! But looking at this picture. Aku mcm syak wasangka BECAUSE aku dah pernah check whether aku dah registered belum and the result bukan mcm picture yang kat atas ni. Lagipun takkanlah keluar dua nama. So aku yakin yang picture kat atas, yang menunjukkan dua pengundi ade same IC, adalah FAKE. So aku enlarge and try to read the numbers and did my own research. Aku set out to prove that my govt was innocent. Can you imagine that? Me being pro-PAS and all set out to SHOW that opposition don’t play fair either.

The results are these:

Haih... Kecewa....

Politics

And now that i've started why stop eh?

OK.. I will vote.. I hate the government. HATE HATE HATE..

But hey. Look at it this way. I have my education. And most of my friends are educated people.. of all races.

I know the govt have been screwing with us so long. But now that we have a strong opposition maybe they will toe the line...

And giving credit where it's due. The country turned out fine so far. I mean there is A LOT that we need to be proud of. Suppression of freedom of speech? yes. I see that as a problem too. BUT to be fair, the voices against the govt are not TOTALLY stifled. And people have access to the information they need to make an informed decision.

I will be making an informed decision when voting. I will PROBABLY be slamming the govt sometime in my future posts. but hey.. that's why it's informed decision and not blind following.

And so far ambiga, the protest for having to notify 10 days in advance? not to mention the seksualiti merdeka (and defacing the word merdeka at that).. come on... there needs to be a line SOMEWHERE.

nukilan hati di malam hari... lagi..

Cheers

Build for Speed??

Ever seen these images??





Malaysians on the road seemed to take it as a challenge to break the speed limit rather than a rule that has to be followed.. i get it that sometimes the speed limit might be pushing it too far. say putting a 90 km/h restraint on a 4 lane expressway with a long stretch of road. but even so i find it annoying that those who chose to stick to the speed limit (case in point: ME) are overtaken only to be served with a serving of scornful looks from some beemer.. i am already on the slow lane.. sticking obstinately to the speed limit. i care not for your highlight. it is a RIGHT for me. My RIGHT of way. but alas as life on the road of malaysia goes, i am the obstruction...

This is me pledging to stick to the bloody speed limit even though it may annoy and harass those late to their appointment.. if you are late. drive fast. go to the fast lane. im sure as hell won't be THERE. and here's another image..

Expecting from Malaysians

Remember this? Ever since I could remember, the government has struggled to maintain the cleanliness of the country. We are drilled by advertisements and reminders to throw garbage in the trash can. Yet "Malaysia Boleh!" prevails and littering continued to be an all time favourite pastime.

So where did we go wrong?

And then mother earth faces a threat to its very existence. Now you see this



At the end of the day its the way its being implemented. I'm all for "no plastic bag day". But its a short term plan for long term goal. It's a start but there's a need for it to grow.

Humans are weak individually but forceful as a society. So the authority should force us to be more humane to mother earth..

Melentur buluh dari rebungnya. Well implement the idea and habit in children. They will grow up to make Malaysia (hopefully) a cleaner and more environmentally friendly. Provided that grown ups don't corrupt this habit of course.